Making It Work: Self-Care for Music Educators in December
December is a crazy time for music educators. There is a lot on our plates. We are still teaching all of our regular classes as well as preparing for a concert (or five), with all of the details and logistics that go along with that. Many of us have gigs outside of school at church or other venues with extra rehearsals and performances. Top it off with an extensive list of personal and family activities and preparations for the holidays. It can become a bit daunting. Roger Sams and I put our heads together to create a list of ways you can take care of yourself so you can enjoy the wonder and beauty of the season.
Look for the good.
When I am neck deep in a to-do list for concert time and running through the final rehearsals with my kids I do my very best to take a deep breath and look for the moments of joy and beauty the children have created. It helps me to enjoy the process with the children. When the performance is over and 300 parents are happy and that one critical email comes through, I go back and read the complimentary notes from parents and kids again. I remind myself that 300 parents were thrilled, make note of any legitimate concerns and move on.
Carve out few minutes to nourish your soul with beauty.
Take a few minutes to watch your favorite Pentatonix video on YouTube, listen to a favorite selection of music with headphones, look at art for five minutes and focus on the visual in front of you. Pet your dog or cat and be attentive to their response. Take a five-minute walk outside around your school or neighborhood and focus on the beauty around you. You will come back to your work refreshed and be more productive.
Know when enough is enough.
Yes, I know that the fabulous idea of having red and green streamer ribbons for 40 kids during the final song on the program would be amazing. You have been to seven craft stores and can’t find what you need, or you purchased everything that you need and are now up at 3AM making streamer sticks two days before the concert. If those last details are making you (and your family and possibly your students) crazy because you are overwhelmed and exhausted is it really worth it? Sometimes it is better to let it go, and really enjoy the beauty you and the children have created together.
Make a point of eating the best quality food you can.
For most of us cooking at home every night during concert season is not likely. When you do get a meal in, make double and freeze half for next week or exchange with a friend. Have to pick something up? Perhaps choose a prepared meal from the grocery store over fast food. Cook a big pot of soup on the weekend and bring a little for lunch each day. Sheet pan meals have become a favorite in my house. I throw meat, veggies and potato on a large sheet pan with spices and roast while I get other things done. Thirty minutes later, dinner is ready!
Know when good enough is good enough.
Often times the children will have a really hard time in those final rehearsals. More often than not, they pull it together when they are in front of an audience and it really matters. I am not saying that you should lower your standards, but we do need to remember they are children and this is supposed to be fun! Many a terrible dress rehearsal has been followed by a stunning performance. Trust it will all work out.
Schedule time to be attentive to yourself.
Schedule time for yoga or stretching. Carve out 10 minutes to pray, meditate, or focus on your breath. Take a hot bath or get one of those 15-minute chair massages at the mall. A quick manicure or pedicure can make you feel rejuvenated. Taking time to read a short inspirational passage from a favorite text does the trick for some. Do something that makes you feel good. You deserve it!
Remind yourself why music makes you happy.
When you are really stressed out at school, take five minutes, close your door and play your instrument or sing or play a favorite song and dance with abandon. Remind yourself why you decided on a career in music education and how music makes you feel. It will prepare you for that next class or rehearsal by putting you in the right frame of mind to share that feeling of joy with your students.
Please share your tricks for self-care during the busy month of December in the comments below so we can all enjoy the concert season. Your solution may be just what someone needs to “Make it Work.”